cryx: Me, infront of a wall, with surprisingly dark hair (Default)
Inspired by some previous comments, I thought I might mention in it's own entry about how I've been finding the idea of Karpman Drama Triangle very interesting and illustrative. It's certainly describing relationships I have found myself encouraging (I love me some some helper/rescuer narrative)
drama triangle victim | rescuer | persecuter

What I also like about that wiki article is that it also mentions some ways to step out of that triangle, or work with where you are feeling. For example:

The Power of TED, first published in 2009, recommends that the "victim" adopt the alternative role of creator, view the persecutor as a challenger, and enlist a coach instead of a rescuer.[14]

  • Creator – victims are encouraged to be outcome-oriented as opposed to problem-oriented and take responsibility for choosing their response to life challenges. They should focus on resolving "dynamic tension" (the difference between current reality and the envisioned goal or outcome) by taking incremental steps toward the outcomes he or she is trying to achieve.
  • Challenger – a victim is encouraged to see a persecutor as a person (or situation) that forces the creator to clarify his or her needs, and focus on their learning and growth.
  • Coach – a rescuer should be encouraged to ask questions that are intended to help the individual to make informed choices. The key difference between a rescuer and a coach is that the coach sees the creator as capable of making choices and of solving his or her own problems. A coach asks questions that enable the creator to see the possibilities for positive action, and to focus on what he or she does want instead of what he or she does not want.[1]

And whist talking about psychological models, I've been intrigued by the Enneagram recently too. I'm divided between thinking it's a good description of me, vs thinking that probably most people could say they fit most of the categories.
I'd be interested if you'd find out your number, see if it describes you, and also maybe share which one you think I might be?

You can do a quick test here:  or here: (but make sure you read the descriptions after to pick which of the top 4 is most like you). I note now, that in preparing this entry the different tests score me differently and I can totally see myself in the ones they've picked. Hahahahah.

cryx: Me, infront of a wall, with surprisingly dark hair (money)
One of the projects I've been working on is around encouraging more people to contribute to our knowledgebase. I am fascinated by motivation and related things, and I really enjoy reading case studies and research on this kind of thing. I just came across this example which I find very striking:

From all business, my favorite case on incentives is Federal Express. The heart and soul of their system—which creates the integrity of the product—is having all their airplanes come to one place in the middle of the night and shift all the packages from plane to plane. If there are delays, the whole operation can’t deliver a product full of integrity to Federal Express customers.

And it was always screwed up. They could never get it done on time. They tried everything—moral suasion, threats, you name it. And nothing worked.

Finally, somebody got the idea to pay all these people not so much an hour, but so much a shift—and when it’s all done, they can all go home. Well, their problems cleared up overnight.

It's pretty obvious when put like that, but how many times is the idea supported by where you put the cash, that a set number of hours is more important than the outcome ?


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September 2017


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